How’s Married Life?

I have been married for close to two months now and people still keep asking me “How’s Married Life?” Well, for those who aren’t disingenuous, here’s the real answer:

Married life makes me feel great. I like knowing that I have a partner in life who is committed to me with no ulterior motive, someone who is willing to share everything they have. I also like being that person in return for Vanessa. We’re a duo, teammates in a world that’s for the most part playing a single player game. We help each other so much it’s like we’re cheating at life’s challenges. Sometimes that’s the big stuff and sometimes that just involves one of us joining the end of the queue for the checkouts while the other grabs the last few items on the shopping list.

Marriage is like the ultimate connection. It’s like we’re not finishing each other’s sentences anymore, we can read the other person’s thoughts.

Sometimes I wake in the middle of the night to Vanessa fussing in her sleep, talking worriedly and breathing fast. When this happens I assume she’s having bad dreams about cats or the colour green. Whenever this happens I roll over and lay my arm over her. She doesn’t wake up, but just this slight amount of contact seems to relax her and her breathing returns to normal. And then I fall back asleep.

In some ways this event sums up my satisfaction with being married. I think it’s awesome to have a bond with someone that’s so strong that they can feel your presence even when they’re fast asleep. It makes you feel like you’re part of something special. And I know that she’s still asleep after I put my arm around her because she’ll sometimes make this light, wheezy snoring sound that she would never make while conscious because of how embarrassed she’d feel if anyone heard her making it.